Lorine

Speaker Lorine

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Lorine

Topics: Safe Dating

"When I first started to acknowledge boys, I began to realize the great feeling that would arise from being in their presence. They gave me a sense of self worth. Their attention towards me made me feel important. I felt loved. I would go after them and their attention at any expense. This went on throughout my teen years into young adulthood. Because I’d act this way with boys, I neglected my friends and family. I wasn’t the same girl that they’d known for so long. I chose to sacrifice anything and everything for attention from boys, so I ruined the relationships that should have mattered most.

I became pregnant at the age of 15 and then got married at 16. Being a teen mom and wife was way beyond just challenging. It changed my life forever. I wasn’t able to provide the life I would have wanted for my son. I missed out on some of the best teenage experiences and lost years I can never get back! I missed out on education, prom, and graduation.

I slowly began to realize these relationships were not fulfilling as I thought. It was a false sense of security. Slowly, I began to learn how to love myself for who I am instead of what feelings others inspired inside me. I stopped compromising my wants and needs for boys – I learned to put myself first. I found a 12 step program that truly showed me how to live. The support of my friends and family also helped me to find my true self.

I’ve learned so much about myself and what it means to love me for who I am. I used to be willing to compromise my beliefs and sacrifice myself for a guy. I no longer do. I’m no longer looking for relationship to define me – I define myself."