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Melissa

Topics: Safe Dating

 

“I was betrayed by my middle school boyfriend who wanted more physically than I was ready to give him. He and his friend took the matter into their own hands and molested me one night. After that night, I felt defiled and used and no longer respected myself. This began a whirlwind of bad relationships and behaviors that lasted for five years. During this time, I lost a lot of good friendships which can never be fixed and made friends with people who made the situation worse. I disappointed my family and made trouble in all of our lives.


My recovery began with me learning to love and respect myself. I had to learn that I could depend on myself without basing my self-worth on a boyfriend. From there, I worked on getting out of the bad relationships and situations I created for myself. My dad was always there to help me as well. The boarding school I went to also help me make the changes in my behaviors. I think if I had known about all the resources that were available, I could have prevented a lot of my problems.


To this day, I still am haunted by the ghosts of my past. I worry about running into the wrong people. But I am staying confident, healthy and safe by remembering to love myself and talking out anything that tempts me back into the life I lived. I feel like I went from living in a dark pit to living on top of a mountain."